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What's keeping you stuck after the breakup?

8 honest questions about contact, checking, your evenings and the story you tell yourself. You get your recovery type and the first three steps. No sign-up, and your answers never leave your browser.

1. How often do you check their social media?

2. When you think about the relationship, what comes up?

3. Where are you with contact?

4. What do your evenings look like?

5. Sleep, food and movement right now?

6. When you talk to friends about it, you...

7. What does this breakup say about you?

8. If they texted you tonight, you would...

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    How long does it take to get over a breakup?

    It varies. Research on heartbreak suggests the first weeks are usually the hardest and that most people feel noticeably better over the following months, with short bad days along the way. Contact, checking their profiles and replaying the relationship tend to slow it down.

    Does no contact actually work?

    It helps because each text or profile check restarts the craving. A clear rule, written down in advance, makes it easier to keep. If you share children, work or a home, keep contact short, practical and in writing.

    Is it normal to still miss my ex?

    Yes. Missing someone is part of the loss, even when the breakup was the right call. What helps is keeping a balanced picture of the relationship, looking after sleep and routine, and leaning on people around you.